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   HER DIARY 

Sunday night - I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to  meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long,  so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment. Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong - he said, "Nothing." I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry. On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say, "I love you, too." When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched TV.; he seemed distant and absent. Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes he came. I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep. I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.  My life is a disaster.    

HIS DIARY  

Today PAKISTAN lost. DAMN IT.   J  

• “By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher” - Socrates

• "I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't.” - Patrick Murray

• I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste. - David Bissonette

• When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.- Sacha Guitry

• After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.-  Hemant Joshi

• Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them. - Dumas

• The great question... which I have not been able to answer...is, "What does a woman want? - Sigmund Freud

• I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me. - Anonymous

• "Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes

Tuesdays, I go Fridays."-  Henny Youngman

• "I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years." - Sam Kinison

• "There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage." - James Holt McGavran

• Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming: 1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it (2). Whenever you're right, shut up. - Nash

• The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once... - Anonymous

• You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to. - Henny Youngman

• My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met. - Rodney Dangerfield

• A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong. - Milton Berle

• Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy. - Anonymous

• A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine." - Anonymous

• First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!" Second Guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."

ONE BEDROOM FLAT... A TYPICAL MIDDLE CLASS INDIAN SOFTWARE ENGINEER'S LIFE... - A Bitter Reality

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity.


When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true.


Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned  enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after  his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.

I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's  and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate
getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my  parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in
the cheapest flight. I was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return
to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes
3 times a week. Our savings  started diminishing. After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the
Almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to India, the work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India. The next message I got was my parents had passed away and there was no one to do the last rites ...the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My  parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After a couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned  to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA  after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in  USA. I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing  and returned to India. I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.  
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes I wonder was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.


Even if i had earned millions what i would have done with that Today?

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values
and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rites, God Bless them. But the question still remains 'was all this worth it ?

I am still searching for an answer................!!!!

Please pass on this message to as many people as possible so that everybody should know their destiny, which is more important..... relation or money ????

Remember money isn't everything, it is not the only means of happiness... it is up to you to decide.. Life is a beautiful gift of God, He has gifted it to you to live it. 

If you want to see the rainbow, you have to survive the storm.

Story #1

 It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a lion is sitting outside his cave, lying lazily in the sun. Along comes a fox, out on a walk.

Fox: "Do you know the time, because my watch is broken"
Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix the watch for you"

Fox: "Hmm... But it's a very complicated mechanism, and your big claws will only destroy it even more."
Lion: "Oh no, give it to me, and it will be fixed"

Fox: "That's ridiculous! Any fool knows that lazy lions with great claws cannot fix complicated watches"
Lion: "Sure they do, give it to me and it will be fixed"

The lion disappears into his cave, and after a while he comes back with the watch which is running perfectly. The fox is impressed, and the lion continues to lie lazily in the sun, looking very pleased with himself. Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the lazy lion in the sun.

Wolf: "Can I come and watch TV tonight with you, because mine is broken"
Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix your TV for you".

Wolf: "You don't expect me to believe such rubbish, do you? There is no way that a lazy lion with big claws can fix a complicated TV.
Lion: "No problem. Do you want to try it?"

The lion goes into his cave, and after a while comes back with a perfectly fixed TV. The wolf goes away happily and amazed.

Scene:
Inside the lion's cave. In one corner are half a dozen small and intelligent looking rabbits who are busily doing very complicated work with very detailed instruments. In the other corner lies a huge lion looking very pleased with himself.

Moral:
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY A MANAGER IS FAMOUS; LOOK AT THE WORK OF HIS SUBORDINATES.

Management Lesson in the context of the working world:
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY SOMEONE UNDESERVED IS PROMOTED; LOOK AT THE WORK OF HIS SUBORDINATES.

Story #2

It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a rabbit is sitting outside his burrow, tippy-tapping on his typewriter. Along comes a fox, out for a walk.

Fox: "What are you working on?"
Rabbit: "My thesis."

Fox: "Hmm... What is it about?"
Rabbit: "Oh, I'm writing about how rabbits eat foxes."

Fox: "That's ridiculous ! Any fool knows that rabbits don't eat foxes!
Rabbit: "Come with me and I'll show you!"

They both disappear into the rabbit's burrow. After few minutes, gnawing on a fox bone, the rabbit returns to his typewriter and resumes typing.

Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the hardworking rabbit.

Wolf: "What's that you are writing?"
Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat wolves."

Wolf: "you don't expect to get such rubbish published, do you?"
Rabbit: "No problem. Do you want to see why?"

The rabbit and the wolf go into the burrow and again the rabbit returns by himself, after a few minutes, and goes back to typing. Finally a bear comes along and asks, "What are you doing?

Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat bears."
Bear: "Well that's absurd ! "

Rabbit: "Come into my home and I'll show you"

Scene:
As they enter the burrow, the rabbit introduces the bear to the lion.

Moral:
IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW SILLY YOUR THESIS TOPIC IS; WHAT MATTERS IS WHOM YOU HAVE AS A SUPERVISOR.

Management Lesson in the context of the working world:
IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW BAD YOUR PERFORMANCE IS; WHAT MATTERS IS WHETHER YOUR BOSS LIKES YOU OR NOT

Here are some interesting Solutions to difficult problems. Just Read
 
 Case 1(The famous one!!!!)
 
 When NASA began the launch of astronauts into
 space,they found out that the pens wouldn't work at
 zero gravity (ink won't flow down to the writing
 surface). To solve this problem, it took them one
 decade and $12 million.
 They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity,
 upside down,underwater, in practically any surface
 including crystal and in a temperature range from
 below freezing to over 300 degrees C.
 
 And what did the Russians do...?? They used a pencil
 .....!!!!!!
 
 Case 2
 
 One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese
 management was the Case of the empty soap box, which
 happened in one of Japan's biggest Cosmetics companies.
 The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a
 soap box that was empty. Immediately the authorities
 isolated the problem to the assembly line, which
 transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the
 delivery department.For some reason, one soap
 box went through the assembly line empty. Management
 asked its engineers to solve the problem.
 Post-haste,the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine
 with high-resolution monitors manned by two people
 to  watch all the soap boxes that passed through the
 line  to make sure they were not empty. No
 doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but
 they  spent a  whopping amount to do so.
 But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company
 was posed with the same problem, he did not get into
 complications of X-rays, etc., but instead came out with another
 solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan
 and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the
 fan on, and as each soap box passed the fan, it
 simply  blew the empty boxes out of the line.
 
  
 ONE MORE ON THIS ONE .....
 
 OTIS ...... A Lift manufacturing Giant ...... had a
 complain from the customer that their lifts were
 very very slow, and that it took a long time to go up 60 stories........



 Otis Engineers were fired and asked to solve the
 problem at the earliest and replace all the liftss
 accordingly. Engineers started working on the chain mechanism, the puuley
 systems, the power drives, the weight to speed
 ratio, and other such hi tech parts......
 The problem had no solution, as in increasing speed,
 weight had to be reduced, or the safety was an
 issue,or other such thing.
 But, one newly appointed engineer solved the problem
 in 2 days. He fitted the mirror in the lifts.
 Suddenly the Complaints reduced drastically to 10%. The director
 asked for the young engineer, and asked him about
 this solution.
 The young man said, The problem is not that the
 lifts are slow,but that People feel that our Lifts are
 slow.


Moral:
 
 Always look for simple solutions. Devise the
 simplest possible solution that solves the problems


 Hence, Always analyse the Problems from all view
 points.......
 "Think Simply  ,  Think Effectively"